Matrimony marks a turning point in every person’s life. It means saying goodbye to the freedom of single blessedness and hello to solid commitment until death and kingdom come. While the prospect of being tied down to just one person seems daunting to some, a lot of people actually view marriage through rose colored glasses. It evokes thoughts of happily ever after endings, waking up in the morning beside that special someone and just the mere comfort of knowing you have someone. But for women, marriage signifies her impending meeting with her new best friend – her engagement ring.
The words “engagement ring” of today conjures images of a shiny platinum band with a big diamond sparkler in the middle – indeed, it is a far cry from the plain iron hoop that the Romans introduced around 4th century A.D. However, more than just conforming to a tradition that is centuries old, today’s engagement ring has become a symbol of love fused with self-expression.
While the engagement ring (or a betrothal ring, as it was traditionally called) of before used to be just a simple band, it is now a must that the cost of the ring be equivalent to two to three months of the man’s salary. It has become a necessary expense because it is said to signify the man’s steadfast solidarity to his future wife and the life they are about to embark on together.
Women who are engaged to be married wear their betrothal ring (the traditional term for engagement ring) on their left ring finger because it was believed that the vein of love is located on that particular finger. However, in countries like the United States, Brazil and Germany, women are also purchasing rings for their fianc?s, to openly declare their intention to wed.
Sadly, not all engagements end happily. Since the engagement period is a time where both the man and woman can reflect if they are ready to take that all-important plunge, it is possible that either one of them, or even both, decide that they are not ready to make the commitment – maybe not now or not ever.
In the case of broken engagements, the woman has to return the ring to the man; otherwise, she will be branded as selfish by some. However, in recent years, it has been argued that since the ring was technically a gift from her former fianc?, the woman can opt to keep the ring, especially if the engagement is broken because the man pursued another woman apart from his fianc?e. |